Many of us go through life not really knowing what we want to do. Yes, you may start a family or get a good job, but is that all you want from this world? I see far too often people who go through their day to day lives with a specific look in their eyes. The look of someone who feels like they are missing out on something.
We all have different dreams, different goals, and different paths in which we would like our lives to take. Most of us want to find our greatness, our true calling, a reason to want to get up in the morning and be excited. The problem though is that for many of us, we never get past the dreaming stage. We live in a methodically mundane manner and dream our lives away.
We try to escape through entertainment and social media. We hope for something incredible to happen to us yet we put no effort into making the dream a reality. We are raised to live in such a way that our dreams are just that, dreams. We aim to chase greatness yet we are afraid to start running for fear of tripping. We are afraid to put everything on the line in order to make the life we seek become a reality, therefore we are destined to fail from the start.
I take issue with that kind of thinking. I believe most people are fully capable of doing something amazing. I know that not everyone will become famous or rich, but I truly believe anyone who tries hard enough can change the world for the better, and equally as important, can change their life for the better.
Here are some ways you can find your greatness.
Don’t be afraid to fail.
In order to become great at something you will no doubt fail many, many times. The process of failing and learning from your mistakes is pivotal in mastering whatever it is that you are after. Many people are so engrossed in the idea of succeeding that they view any kind of setback as the end of their journey to success. Just because you fail at something does not mean you can’t eventually become great at it. It takes time, effort, and most importantly patience. If you fear failing you won’t even give yourself the chance to succeed.
“Men learn little from success, but much from failure.” – Old proverb.
Don’t be afraid to succeed.
On the other end of the spectrum we have people who are afraid of success. It seems strange but it is understandable. Once you have succeeded in completing your mission it can put you in a very unfamiliar place. You have worked so hard with one goal in mind and now that you have accomplished it you may not know where to go. Once you have found your success you have to also maintain it. Many people do not plan for what happens once they make it. You need keep making goals and always work on improving things. Never become complacent or you might just find yourself right back where you started.
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas A. Edison
Put forth the effort.
You don’t have to worry about succeeding or failing at something if the only effort you put forth is dreaming about it. You must put your all into accomplishing your goals or you are just wasting your time. You can go to the gym every day but if you don’t actually workout you will never see any positive results. Far too many people idly stand to the side and watch the world pass them by, just wishing something great will happen to them. If you don’t make it happen, it’s an almost certainty that nothing will.
“We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.” – Jesse Owens
Make small goals that lead to bigger ones.
You cannot expect to set one major goal and just go out and accomplish it. Things take a lot of work and you can very quickly overwhelm yourself. Set small, attainable goals that lead up to your main goal. For instance, if you want to one day become a competitive bodybuilder, you can’t just lift weights and “pow” you’re on stage. Your progress comes in small increments that build to something better. Set reachable goals that you can accomplish fairly quickly. Seeing constant positive results will make it that much easier to see things to the end.
“I don’t focus on what I’m up against. I focus on my goals and I try to ignore the rest.” – Venus Williams.
Change your social surroundings.
This may sound harsh but the majority of us need to hear it. If you surround yourself with losers chances are pretty good that you are also a loser. Even if you are doing the best out of your friends that could just mean you are the best loser of the group. Surround yourself with successful people with like minded goals. That gives you a much better support group and will drastically help with keeping you on track. How many champion bodybuilders do you see strictly hanging out with skinny stoners or obese couch jockeys?
“You can tell how far in life you’ll go by the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with.” – Will Smith
Do not fear change.
If you fear change you will stay in the same place doing the same things. Never be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something different. The more you succeed, the more change will occur. One thing I make sure to do in my own life is to avoid becoming complacent with
things as they are. I like to make constant progress and improvements in my life, even if it’s just in small increments. You will never know how great you can be if you refuse to try things you have never done before.
“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” – John F. Kennedy
No longer waste your time on things that do not matter.
Go through your day and think about how you have spent your free time. What did you accomplish during that time? The number one complaint I hear from people is that they do not have enough time in their day for everything they need to do. That’s almost never true. You spend time playing games on your phone, messing around on social media, watching TV, the list goes on and on. How many of you have found yourself wasting at least an hour at night just pissing around on Facebook not really doing anything important? My rule is to always try to accomplish one major thing every day. I’m constantly reading, learning new things, and finding ways to improve my life. You are entitled to your leisure time. It’s quite healthy to relax after a hard day, but that doesn’t mean you need to focus that time on things that are unimportant.
“If time be of all things the most precious, wasting time must be the greatest prodigality”. – Benjamin Franklin
If there is one thing you take away from this article, it’s that you are far greater than you realize. Nothing is mightier than your will. As long as you refuse to give up on your dreams you will never have a life full of regret. Even if you don’t succeed in the manner in which you have set out to, you will be a far greater person knowing you have done everything in your power to make your dream a reality.
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt